So the divorce thing happened last year. Jip, I too didn’t think it will happen to us.

Now I’m house hunting trying to find a place that has enough space to keep our sanity within the right price! That’s proving quite the challenge. Markets are down? Not down enough for my pocket though!

I have a severe need to settle and create a stable environment for the kids. They need it after last year. Someone said something great to me recently. I was moaning that it just doesn’t stop. The ex keeps changing the smallest things into a battle of wills and the poor kids are in the middle, doesn’t matter how I try to keep them out of it. This mentor said it’s probably going to go this way for at least another year or so. That we know for sure. Thus, I perhaps need to change my expectation. I expected things to even out and become more calm after the final papers were signed. But, as I said, new upsets still come along frequently.

So I decided to try my best to expect the worst for another year or two. Hope the mind remains sane!

Finding a new network of friends seems to be the other big change. When the kids visit the dad every second weekend, I’m by myself. This is a great time to rest up and catch my breath but also a time when I feel alone. I need to find unattached friends again to have a night out etc. All the friends currently are married or have evaporated in the mist after the divorce.

I’m thinking that I might write a book one day. Perhaps the missing manual on singleness: how to live life after divorce!

Greetings from a semi-sane single mom!