Does that feeling of “I want to shake him until some sense drops into his head”-feeling towards your ex-husband ever subside? Just when you think things are finally on track to getting calmer and without major incident…. then the idiot does or says something that throws you into that emotional whirlpool that you just thought you got out of!

I sometimes have this wish:

If I can just step away from my life for a few hours and just look at it all from the outside… come to think of it, it’s probably similar to what God does with us. Not that I would ever compare! But I feel like I want to escape for a little while … I don’t know what I want to accomplish really.

Perhaps I’ll find calm and new energy. Perhaps I just want to have a moment where I don’t feel the heaviness of having to make the right decisions for the kids and I. Perhaps I just want to see for myself that this is only a tiny part of a big picture and that life here, is only a spec of what lies ahead once we join God in Heaven…

Well, I hope all have a bubbly day!

Bubbles out!

I recently read a toungue in the cheek email about the job description of parenthood. And I can confidently confirm that nobody would have them if they had to respond on this job description! Does this sound familiar? Must be willing to work long hours, be called on several times during the night, no recognition, no pay, etc. etc.! Sounds about right hey?!

But as much as they drive us up the wall (with those rolling eyes and wiser than thou-comments), we love them to bits! I wish I can remember all the words or phrases that they use whilst growing up! When my 3 year old can’t remember he only says half the word: “kan nie hou nie” Which should be “onthou nie!” Makes me think  that he has a “wee”!

My favourite is my eldest daughter who very wisely explained death like this when she was younger … “‘n Mens se vel (body) bly op die aarde en jou senings (soul!) gaan op hemel toe!!” It still cracks me up!

What funnies have you had from your kids? Any other single moms out there facing my challenges as well?

Be blessed!

So the divorce thing happened last year. Jip, I too didn’t think it will happen to us.

Now I’m house hunting trying to find a place that has enough space to keep our sanity within the right price! That’s proving quite the challenge. Markets are down? Not down enough for my pocket though!

I have a severe need to settle and create a stable environment for the kids. They need it after last year. Someone said something great to me recently. I was moaning that it just doesn’t stop. The ex keeps changing the smallest things into a battle of wills and the poor kids are in the middle, doesn’t matter how I try to keep them out of it. This mentor said it’s probably going to go this way for at least another year or so. That we know for sure. Thus, I perhaps need to change my expectation. I expected things to even out and become more calm after the final papers were signed. But, as I said, new upsets still come along frequently.

So I decided to try my best to expect the worst for another year or two. Hope the mind remains sane!

Finding a new network of friends seems to be the other big change. When the kids visit the dad every second weekend, I’m by myself. This is a great time to rest up and catch my breath but also a time when I feel alone. I need to find unattached friends again to have a night out etc. All the friends currently are married or have evaporated in the mist after the divorce.

I’m thinking that I might write a book one day. Perhaps the missing manual on singleness: how to live life after divorce!

Greetings from a semi-sane single mom!

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